grieving preschooler cries about everything except her loss

Q: My daughter is four years old and is currently undergoing many big changes in her life. A few months ago, she lost her granddad whom she was extremely close with. She speaks about him every day and misses him terribly. She doesn’t cry, but speaks about him and recollects little details of their time spent together.

A month later, we moved and she started attending preschool and daycare. Every morning when she wakes up she cries about going to school and her entire morning routine. When she gets to school, she cries. When she gets picked up by her daycare provider, she cries again. 


All this crying doesn’t last very long after I have left. She doesn’t want to change classes and says she loves her teacher. She doesn’t want to change her aftercare teacher for the same reason. But yet she cries non-stop just rambling on with different reasons.

I don’t know what to do anymore, because I don’t know if it’s all the changes or if she is just crying to get her way. What can I do to help her?


- Concerned Mom