Joint Custody: When a parent doesn't show up for visitation

Q: My four year old son gets so upset when his dad doesn't show up for his scheduled parenting time/visitation. What should I do?

A: This one is pretty straightforward. It's a rare four-year-old who maintains an internal clock and calendar in his mind. It's up to you to remind him what happens when. So simply don't mention that his dad is supposed to come.

If he shows up, let it be a lovely surprise. Plan your day in a flexible way so that your son can spend time with his dad without missing out on anything major. If he doesn't come, you and your son can do something fun together.

real drowning does not look like it does on TV

I had no idea that drowning people cannot call for help, are usually vertical, and don't flail their arms. The Instinctive Drowning Response looks nothing like what we see on TV. Before I read this article, a kid could have been drowning right next to me and I would not have known what was going on. I consider this a must-read for all parents:


http://gcaptain.com/maritime/blog/drowning/?10981



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link to a great article about public tantrums

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/43/64/Handling-Children-s-Feelings-in-Public-Places

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