New York Times article on parenting

I was thrilled to read an article in the New York Times which cites research on the harm caused by using parental love and approval as either a carrot or a stick in an attempt to control our children's behavior. Here's an excerpt:

What these and other studies tell us, if we’re able to hear the news, is that praising children for doing something right isn’t a meaningful alternative to pulling back or punishing when they do something wrong. Both are examples of conditional parenting, and both are counterproductive.

Read the article here:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/15/health/15mind.html?_r=1&em

To read about parenting strategies that work within the framework of unconditional love and approval, check out these posts from my blog, or click on the discipline category in the sidebar to the right of this page:

http://www.advice-for-parents.com/2009/04/consequences-vs-collaboration.html

http://www.advice-for-parents.com/2009/04/my-beef-with-tough-love-and-logical.html

http://www.advice-for-parents.com/2008/12/behavior-is-communication.html

http://www.advice-for-parents.com/2008/06/ask-dont-tell.html

http://www.advice-for-parents.com/2008/02/what-current-brain-research-tells-us.html


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