communication guidelines to teach your teen

My daughter is going into 8th grade, which really should have been included in Dante's levels of hell. She sure is suffering while she works things out for herself socially.

Most of the time, all I can do is rub her back and dry her tears and witness the fury and pain as it releases from her system. She rights herself much more quickly than I remember doing at her age. Heck, who am I kidding -- she's quicker than I am even now!!

While searching for some kind of lifeline to throw to her, I remembered a three part guideline I heard somewhere years ago, a sort of algorithm that helps us decide whether to speak our thoughts out loud or not. Thought I'd write it here since I will surely need to refer back to it myself:

Is it true?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?


Real Life Sarah said...

Forget 8th grade! This is great advice for me!

(I hated 8th grade!)

Julie Arduini said...

I agree with every word you wrote here. This is perfect---for any age!